I’m a huge fan of setting goals & intentions for what you want in your life & in your relationships. A missing piece I often see when it comes to goal setting or asking for what you want in your professional or personal relationships is most people don’t actually know what they really want.
What I mean by that is people often create goals or state what they want from a very surface level. Or, oftentimes, people don’t even really know what they truly want.
To get clear on what it is you want, you must first get clear on how you feel.
Here is one of the most valuable practices that I do throughout my day to support me in not only anchoring into how I feel, but to use how I feel to discern what it is that I really want.
1. Close your eyes. If this is the first time you have done a practice similar to this, allow yourself a little longer to really settle into yourself & your body.
2. Ask yourself the question, ‘how do I feel?’. Allow a few moments or minutes to pass to really sit with this question. You want to connect in deeper than the surface level emotions to really uncover how you are truly feeling.
3. Once you uncover how you are feeling, ask yourself the question, ‘based on how I’m feeling what would make me feel just a little bit better?’
You can use this practice in the following ways:
1. Throughout your day as a tool to simply come back into yourself & your body
2. Ask about specific relationships. How do you feel in the relationship? Allow more time with this question so you can get really clear on how you feel. Then ask, based on how you feel in the relationship, what would make you feel a little bit better in the relationship?
3. You can also use this in different areas of your life when you are setting goals: physical health, finances, career, relationships, mental & emotional health, & your spirituality. When you first uncover how you feel deep down in each area, it will support you in creating more specific goals that are anchored into what it is you are truly wanting.